Kayla

Grand Rapids + Michigan + USA

I am a Lesbian

Female + Lesbian / 17 and Under + 18-22 /

Growing up, I never wanted to believe that’s what I am. I always enjoyed exploring my feelings and attractions at a pace that makes me feel safe and comfortable. However, I’m learning that I don’t have to deal with my questions or problems alone.

In middle school I realized I was attracted to women. I played it off well, like always the straight girl who always has the boyfriend. I’m not fully out, but those who do know, I guess, aren’t too surprised. It’s kinda funny hearing people’s reactions. On some level, I have avoided this for a very long time. I didn’t think my family or close friends would support me at all. But they did and it was a weight lifted off my shoulders, and I could finally breathe.

When coming out you have to do it at your own pace and while it’s great that your friends and family support you, not everyone will. You have to be prepared for certain people to react negatively. Lately, my advice to myself and others is first thing would be is to always be yourself. Because the worst thing is to try and smooth things over by having an image. I was out and then had to deal with the image thing. It will be easier if you are comfortable with yourself and will eventually be easier to tell others.